Every day should be about preventing suicide, but on 10th September each year we recognise how much we need to make people feel comfortable to talk, and see the help available. It is frightening that suicide is the biggest cause of death in the under 35s in the UK; and males age 45-49 were found to have the highest suicide rate.
I joined an illuminating talk last week led by Paul McGregor from everymindatwork and Amelia Wrighton from Suicide & Co - on supporting colleagues through suicide grief.
A statistic was shared - those bereaved by suicide are 65% more likely to go on and take their own life, a staggering statistic, and one we need to do more to get people to open up.
I learned many years ago when I did my Mental Health First Aid training that you're not going to make things worse by asking someone if they are ok. Truly listening to people, and simply being there is crucial; don't leave them if they are in a crisis. Asking a direct question of 'are you having suicidal thoughts' can help people open up.
Some other tips were shared on the talk:
Don't say 'committed' suicide - it is outdated language now (after all it is not a crime), instead say died by suicide or took their own life
Never say ‘at least’ i.e. at least they are in a better place, or not in pain any more
Avoid judgemental comments like suicide is selfish
Some great tools to help people are here:
Tools to help talking Finding a way to say it (samaritans.org)
NHS 111 now has mental health practitioners available if people need to talk urgently, or 999
Talking groups like Andy's Man Club and support through local charities like Mind
Apps such as Mettle for men's health
If you know someone who has been bereaved through suicide, they can access 12 counselling sessions Suicide&Co | Support after Suicide Bereavement (squarespace.com)
Remember as well to look after yourself, if you are supporting someone who is having a tough time.

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